I loved asking this question.
The answer did not matter that much, although some answers that were downright amazing! What I looked for was how risky these candidates where. How much were they were willing to put themselves out there? I watched their facial expressions as they answered. Were they happy, proud, amazed, shocked, etc… of their decision? How much courage did it take to make that decision?
Why did it matter? Because I wanted to work with people who didn’t just sit on the fence. I wanted them to think broadly, beyond the norm. I wanted them to be able to take risks, understanding where they may land may very well be a better place, or at least learn some really great life lessons from it.
Yes, you have to make major, life-changing decisions with a cool head. You have to think it through, make the decision and then plan it out. But just as importantly, you need to take time to absorb it. Understand the change you’re making. What impact it will have.
Then build your courage by whatever means you can. You’ll need it.
When it’s all said and done, believe me, it’s worth the stress, the pain, the drama, and yep, even those never-ending lists. Totally worth it.
One day, you’ll find yourself somewhere and you’ll realise: You did this. You accomplished your goal.
This thing that you planned for, navigated the minefield for. You had courage and made this really gutsy move to change the direction of your life. (Well done!)
One last thing.
My best friend sent me a present for my birthday. I received it while I was writing this post. It’s a beautiful silver bracelet that’s inscribed: “She believed she could, so she did.”